My recent trip to NYC
was gratifying, to put it mildly. I’d received a flyer about the excursion in
January, but because of health concerns knew I couldn’t commit to something
five months out. The flyer was sent out through the auspices of ACT Theatre in
Seattle and advertised four Broadway plays, several theatrically oriented tours,
and visits to several tourist attractions I hadn’t seen, such as the 911 Museum
and the Lower Eastside Tenement Museum. It sounded perfect, but I tossed away
the brochure and told myself I’d look for a similar trip next year.
Then in April I
received an email from ACT telling me there were still a few spots available
for this year. The timing was perfect—I was feeling optimistic about a healthy
future and my body-parts that frequently slow me down, such as my knees and
feet, were feeling pretty darn good, too. On impulse I called the number on the
brochure and within the hour, I’d signed up for the trip.
Not without some trepidation,
I will admit. Age can be a stickler in a group where others are younger or more
agile. I worried that I’d be exhausted by the time I’d done all the activities
included. But something much more troubling lay underneath my concern—one so
personal and egotistical, I was embarrassed to share it. As the widow of Jay
Glerum, this would be my first trip to NYC in which I wasn’t riding on his coattails.
Indeed, I had only to take my husband’s arm to be instantly an insider in the
theatre district . . . the wife of a man whom stagehands revered, a man who was
routinely invited backstage so stage crews could show off their expertise to ‘the man who wrote the book.”
The thought of going to Broadway shows as an ordinary audience member—not one
who got to see the stuff and meet the people that made the shows so spectacular—made
me sad. I’d be a nobody in the audience, when only a few years before I’d been
a ‘somebody’ just because of my marriage.
To my delight, the tour
was wonderful! I loved my six days in
the city and successfully overrode sentimental memories about being there without
Jay. I got up early every morning to roam the West
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Unlike most productions where photos are strictly forbidden,
an announcement was made before "Natasha, Pierre, and
The Great Comet of 1812" began saying photos
BEFORE the show started were OK. Thus, this picture
of The Imperial Theatre with its fabulous, immersive set. |
40s, marveling at the hustle
and bustle of commuters amidst the stumbling gawkiness of tourists like me who
were taking pictures, watching Good Morning America through the street-level
windows, sipping Starbucks, or munching bagels, as we all walked through Times
Square and its environs.
On the last morning before breakfast I walked back to my hotel along West
43rd between Seventh and
Eighth Avenues, passing the Lyric Theatre where I noticed its stage door was wide
open. I peered in as I walked by, then paused and turned around and approached the entrance to
the stage. I could see multiple stagehands loading out equipment. One hand
stood by the door. “Can I just watch a minute?” I asked.
“Yup, look all you
like. But you can’t come in.”
“Oh, I only want to
look,” I responded, feeling a surge of nostalgia. After a minute, I couldn’t
resist and asked, “Does the name Jay Glerum mean anything to you? I’m his
widow.”
“Nah.”
Immediately another
stagehand appeared. "Jay Glerum? JAY O. GLERUM? Yeah, it does—it means a lot!” then chided the man standing at
the door. “You do too know that name!” he scolded. “Jay O. Glerum wrote the book! He wrote Stage Rigging Handbook!”
“Oh, yeah . . . I shouda known . . . I have that book,” said the first stagehand seeming somewhat embarrassed, while the other one extended his hand to me for a firm and
enthusiastic handshake. “Jay was great—GREAT—he
taught me in two classes. I’ll never forget him!”
We chatted for a couple
of minutes, and even though I was invited inside, I declined. The spark of
recognition for Jay and his work was like frosting on the cake for me. I felt
immeasurably happy as I headed back to the hotel to finish packing for the trip
home later that day. And I felt emancipated from what had been my crippling
concern. I wasn’t in New York without Jay; he is there—backstage with
stagehands who are maybe just a little more careful because of his legacy. I
could almost feel him walking beside me.